SKY SESH: AM I ALLOWED TO SAY NO?

Is it okay to change my mind halfway through the commitment? – Christabel

Yes, it is 100% percent okay to change your mind at any point of the commitment. Hii inaitwa ku-withdraw consent. Kumbuka YOU have to be COMPLETELY comfortable with it. Uki change your mind, speak up and say you have had enough. 

 

Is it okay for someone to touch you without your consent?  - Allysan 

No, it isn’t. If it makes you uncomfortable you’re allowed kuspeak up. You deserve to have your boundaries respected no matter what the situation is.

 

How do you respond to a boyfriend who tries to sleep with you without your consent?   - Moraa

TBH, that’s a red flag. Anyone who cares about you hawezi fanya something without asking kama uko comfortable or make you feel like you have to do it. Unaweza msho that you are not ready and kama unaneed help kutalk na yeye unaweza enda na rafiki.

 

Is there anything such as non-verbal/unspoken consent?   - Mo 

Yes, kuna non-verbal consent. Here is where you use things like a head nod or a thumbs up. Some couples wana communicate na body language. Lakini, when you want to withdraw consent, it’s always best to say words like “No” or “Stop”

 

Am I supposed to say yes to anything my boyfriend asks? – Azura

NO! Choice ni yako. Ukona the power to decide on things yenye zinaku-affect directly bila pressure. Kumbuka unadeserve healthy relationships where your decisions or choices are respected.

 

How do I say no to something I don’t want to do in relationships and friendships? –Lili

If you need to say no, either unaweza peana reason as to why hautaki ama sema tu it’s not your thing. Uko na the right ya kusema no. 

 

Can I still say no to my boyfriend even after a night out? - Cici

Yes babe, you are allowed to say no at anytime. Ata kama he has bought you drinks, that is not permission kufanya something hautaki

 

We hope ume-elewa mambo za consent. Remember you deserve pressure free, healthy relationships where you feel comfortable and your choices are respected and. If you have any questions, feel free ku-bonga na One2One on  https://one2onekenya.org/ or call 1190 (Toll free)