SKY Advice: How to Make Positive Choices For YOU

Your Mission: Practice positive choices that are true to you. Make sure uko na beshte yako so that you take turns answering hizi scenarios and at the end mta-add up points zenyu

Round 1: Missing Periods

“Umekuwa ukinotice your menstrual cycle has been acting a little funny. Sometimes zinakam for less days than usual sometimes for more days but lately hazijakua zikikam at all. You don’t think it's that serious but unashow your bestie about it. She gets concerned and advises you see a gynae asap, how will you respond?”

• Say No: Unamshow you’re scared to go since you don’t know how to talk to doctors. 
• Avoid: Unachange topic to something else, you’ll think about it later and decide kama unataka kuenda check up or not. 
• Negotiate:  Unamshow that you’ll only go if she accompanies you to go see a gynae. 
• Say Yes:  You realise that its serious and you are in control of your health so to avoid kukua na any issues in future you agree to go see a gynae. 

Round 2: The Mystery DM

“Beshte yako ako na followers wengi kwa social media and she gets so many DMs. Recently amekua aki chat na a stranger and he asks to meet for a physical date. She asks you ajibu aje hio text. Utamshow?”

• Say No: Unamshow aambie huyo mtu “no” straight up coz hawajuani. 
• Avoid: Advice her a take time yake to get to know him better first 
• Negotiate: Tell her to have a video call instead ya kupatana physically. 
• Say Yes: Hata kama inaeza kua dangerous bado ako curious so ni sawa aende tu. 

Round 3: The Friendship Triangle

“Lately umekua ukispend more time with a new friend. Bestie wako amekuambia that

amekua aki feel left out coz you spend less time with her. She tells you to ditch huyo

new friend and spend time yako yote na yeye. Uta respond aje?”

• Say No: Unamshow that ni sawa kukua na other friends and she is not your only friend. 
• Negotiate: Unamshow mnaeza kuhangout pamoja. 
• Avoid: Unamshow unafaa kuenda kufanya assignment coz hutaki ku deal na hio drama sahii.
• Say Yes: Unamwambia ni sawa na uta ditch huyo new friend hata kama unapenda kuhangout na yeye. 

Round 4: April Holidays

“April holz zimefika na plan ya day one ni kuhang out na mabeshte wametoka boarding. Mnameet kwa neighbour. Uki ingia kwa nyumba unapata waki vuta shisha. Hujawahi vuta before na wana kukaribisha ujaribu, utawashow?”

• Say No: Unasema “Zii, niko poa. Bytha mnajua shisha iko na tobacco?” Wasee wana move on na conversation na uko relieved
• Avoid: Una ignore hiyo invitation na kuanzisha story ya movie zimetokea tangu mrudi shule. Story ya movie ndio inaendelea.  
• Negotiate: Unawashow labda utajaribu next time, but mnaeza cheza cards kuji bamba.
• Say Yes: Uko curious ju hujawahi ijaribu so unachukua puff moja na inakufanya ukohoe. Crush wako anakuangalia vi funny.

Round 5: Pressured to have kids

“Beshte yako amekuja for some advice ju auntie yake ameanza kumshow that akimaliza high school and she turns 22 she’ll have to start getting kids, lakini she has goals anataka kuachieve before apate watoto. Utamadvice aambie aunty yake aje next time akimuuliza?”

• Say No: Tell her aunty to not tell her what to do juu hio decision ni yake kumake
• Avoid: Mwambie the next time auntie yako atabring up hii story anaweza change the subject to something else to avoid discussing it 
• Negotiate: Anaweza ambia auntie wake that ata think about kids aki achieve goals zake
• Say Yes:  Mshow akubali kupata kids at a young age ata kama sio decision ya aunty yake kumake

Round 6: Conversation with Nurse

Umeenda kwa a health center and unataka ku get the HPV vaccine yenye inaprevent cervical cancer, but nurse anakuambia that huwezi pewa vaccine bila parental consent. Utamshow?

• Say No: Unamshow hutaki kuongea to your parents so unaenda tu home hata kama uko disappointed 
• Avoid: Hauko ready kuongea na your parents so una postpone hio story lakini unajua hautapata chance ingine 
• Negotiate: Unaambia nurse aongeleshe wazazi wako 
• Say Yes:  Una decide kuenda home and talk to your parents about it

Point System:

Round 1:

• Say No: -10 points 
• Avoid: -5 points
• Negotiate: +5 points 
• Say Yes: +10 points 

Round 2:

• Say No: +10 points 
• Avoid: +5 points
• Negotiate: -5 points 
• Say Yes: -10 points 

Round 3:

• Say No: +10 points 
• Avoid: +5 points
• Negotiate: -5 points 
• Say Yes: -10 points 

Round 4:

• Say No: +10 points 
• Avoid: +10 points
• Negotiate: +5 points 
• Say Yes: -10 points 

Round 5:

• Say No: +5 points 
• Avoid: -5 points
• Negotiate: +10 points 
• Say Yes: -10 points 

Round 6:

• Say No: -10 points 
• Avoid: -5 points
• Negotiate: +10 points 
• Say Yes: +10 points 

The Final Score:

• -10 - 0 points: Time to reflect

Ni time kuanalyze choices zako and see where they don’t reflect na the true you. Make adjustments ndio ukuwe more authentic na confident

• 0 - 10 points: Keep Leveling Up

Unamake good choices but kangaroo for improvement. Keep practising!

• 15 - 30 points: You’re staying True To Yourself

Una-navigate choices in a way that ina-align with your values, stays true to yourself na strengthens your confidence. 

Kumbuka, kila aspect of life kutakuwa na choices kumake, so chagua the option that aligns with your truth and what you believe in. If you have any questions, ama unaneed help feel free ku-bonga confidently bila judgment na One2One, SMS or CALL 1190 (FOR FREE)