Ask SKY: Real Talk Advice Column

You asked, we answered. Hii ni ile advice real, chill, and just what you needed to hear. No filters. Just facts na real talk.

"Me and my bestie had a fight... now it’s just weird tukipatana coz hatuongei."

Fights kwa friendship ni kawaida, babe. But pause and ask yourself: What exactly happened? Did she disrespect you, break your trust, ama alisema kitu iliku-hurt? Understanding nini ili happen helps you decide if it’s something you can forgive and move past.

Next, check kama hiyo situation meets your friendship standards. Does your bestie usually listen, support, and respect you? Or was this fight a sign of deeper issues? If she means a lot to you and your bond has real value, don’t let silence be the end of your story – usimghost.

Reach out, even if it feels uncomfortable. Sometimes communication inaweza help ku-clear the air. Be real about how you feel, na pia mpee space to share her side too. Saa zingine friendships hu-grow stronger after conflict because you both learn more about each other’s boundaries and feelings.

Pia, depending na what the issue is, usiwache a small fight break a big bond. But also, trust your gut if the friendship haimeet your standards anymore. Ni sawa ku-outgrow watu.

"Everyone kwa squad yangu ako na crush ama wanadate. Nafeel left out coz sina mtu."

Usikue na pressure ya ku-date juu ya what’s happening around you. Just because your friends wako busy na crushes ama relationships, doesn’t mean uko behind. You’re just on your own timeline.

Do you even want a relationship right now? Ama ni FOMO tu? Sometimes we think we want something just coz watu wengine wako nayo. Ask yourself: Am I really ready for this? Mentally, hata emotionally? Ama ungeprefer kujijua better, ku-discover passions zako, na kujipenda fully first?

Na pia, being single doesn’t mean you’re alone. If you’re feeling like una-third wheel form zao kila time, maybe it’s time to shake things up. Visit SKY Hub, kuna so many activities, vibes, na pia unaweza make new friends.

Being left out hubore sana, but sometimes ni chance ya kujiuliza maswali: What kind of people do you want wakue around you? Friends wako wana-meet your standards? If you’re feeling unseen ama left behind, maybe hata si about dating; maybe ni time ya ku-expand your circle to people wenye wana-match vibe yako.

"My friends smoke and keep pressuring me niwajoin, na siko comfortable. Ni-do?"

Peer pressure is real, and sometimes inakam from people una-expect waku-protect. But here’s the thing, just coz they’re your friends doesn’t mean lazima ufanye kitu haifeel right kwako. If smoking si vibe yako, you don’t owe anyone a "yes."

Unaweza sema “Hio sio my thing”ama ubadilishe the subject. Pia you can make a joke kama “Unaweza poteza voice yako uanze kusound kama umemeza chura!” au just say “No” na stand na hiyo NO. Kusema hapana si weakness ni sign that you know who you are, na huwezi bend kwa pressure just to fit in.

Na pia, ask yourself, why are they pressuring you? Is it really friendship ama control? Real friends hawafai kuku-pressure kufanya kitu hauko uncomfortable nayo. If they can’t respect your choices, maybe they don’t deserve your time.

Una-deserve a squad yenye ina-respect your decisions, yenye inakuhype when you’re true to yourself, not just when you copy what they do. Na by the way, you can be cool, confident, and 100% that girl bila kusmoke.

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